Threesomes can be a taboo topic, but it doesn't have to be. Many fantasize of what it would be like to be with more than one other partner at a time sexually. Whether it’s a topic you’re looking to explore with your partner, or just something you’re interested in doing with a couple friends with benefits, this article will give you all the do’s and don’ts of having and getting ready for your first threesome! So as Britney Spears says, grab Peter, Paul and Mary and take some notes! Just in time for Valentine’s day no less… 

DO: communicate with all parties involved!

If you are approaching the threesome talk with your partner, it’s best to approach it sensitively if you’re unsure how they may react to such a proposition. Everyone can react differently to the suggestion so approach conscientiously. If this is something you and your partner have discussed or brought up before, it’s also best to keep communication alive when discussing options on who will be your perfect third for the night. If you are single and just looking for a threesome with others, communication of your needs is also incredibly important. Let’s say you have two friends with benefits in mind who you think would make the perfect threesome with you, discuss what you want from the experience with both of them together and also make sure they are sexually compatible as well. Have the same intentions as the other participants, whether you’re in a relationship or single! 

DON’T: Try to solve your relationship problems with a threesome!

Many couples try to solve their relationship troubles by bringing a new face (or ass for that matter) into the bedroom. Many couples get off on the idea of seeing their partner with another person sexually, but you should definitely think this one through together. While sometimes intimacy issues can be worked on through experiences such as threesomes, it’s important to work through prior issues before automatically inserting another person in what could turn into a sticky situation (no pun intended). Threesomes are fun, sexual experimentation not couples counselling! On the other hand, if a threesome is something you’re looking to participate in as a single person, have at it! However, always remember to communicate with all parties because other problems could arise in those situations as well!

DO: feel okay with having boundaries! 

If you are new to threesomes, it’s important to establish boundaries with your partners! As I previously mentioned, make it clear what you are expecting and now what your partners are expecting from the experience. You may feel apprehensive to go against the grain while the deed is going down, but feeling pressured is the last thing you want to feel in the midst of a threesome. You know what they say, know your limit and play within it.

DON'T: leave anyone out! 

This tip goes without saying but it’s important that no one feels left out during a threesome. You never want someone to feel like they’re not needed during a menage a trois. Everyone has a role to play and everyone’s participation will lead to maximum pleasure for all parties! If it has been communicated before that certain people have certain roles such as a “watcher” position, be sure to still make them feel valued in the situation. For couples bringing in a third, this tip is crucial as the last thing anyone needs is problems stemming for a good ole threesome. Make your partner feel included and important in a threesome, jealousy and resentment can unfortunately stem from threesomes sometimes but it doesn’t have to! Again, communication and inclusion are extremely crucial! 

So whether you and your partner are looking to spice up the bedroom or you’re just looking for a Valentine’s Day triple treat, we wish you all the best of luck! Shop our Valentine’s Day collection here to impress your two partners even more!